Ace
A little over 14 months after my 11-year marriage ended in divorce, it was time to also say goodbye, once and for all, to my beloved cocker spaniel, Ace, who had been my constant companion for almost 14 years. Like you Mark, I had prayed that God would let him die peacefully in his sleep. My prayer, too, went unanswered. I had attempted several times before to end his pain and could never follow through with it. It was at those times when I had decided to euthanize him that he seemed to have a little more pep in his step or didn’t appear to be in as much pain so I would begin to doubt whether or not I was doing the right thing. Ultimately, on August 18, 2005, God gave me the courage to finally ease his pain and have him euthanized. It was a decision that tormented me up until the moment that his heart stopped beating.
I opted to have him cremated at Paws in Heaven in Canyon Lake, Texas. Not wanting Ace “shipped” from the veterinarian’s office to the crematorium which was located in a different town, I opted to drive him there myself. What a difficult drive that was. The family that operates Paws in Heaven was truly a blessing at what proved to be an enormously painful time. I thought when I arrived they would take Ace from me, cremate him and return his ashes to me. That was anything but what happened. Upon arriving, they did in fact take Ace from me and asked me to have a seat in the waiting room. What happened next was unexpected. I walked through the doors to the outside of the office to find Ace lying on a table, his trusty yellow tennis ball nestled between his paws. They had set up a memorial for my little Ace Baby. I was overwhelmed with grief. Saying goodbye to him is one of the most difficult things I’ve endured at this point in my life. Not only was I saying goodbye to Ace, I was permanently closing a chapter of my life with my ex-husband. He and I had picked Ace out together. My marriage had died. Now so had my dog. Now I had to break the news to my two daughters.
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